What it is: an out-of-court process in which the parties work through the concerns of the case with a neutral third party — the mediator — who helps open discussions and reach an agreement. Mediation is a requirement in Illinois if there is a dispute regarding decisions for the children.
What this means for you: parents can pursue mediation before or shortly after filing — and also after a judgment has been entered, to settle post-decree concerns. A good mediator helps you both find solutions you can live with; an attorney can advise you alongside mediation so you don’t agree to something unwise.
What to expect: sessions are confidential, the mediator doesn’t decide for you, and nothing is binding until you sign. You can bring your lawyer; many people do.
Watch out for: mediation produces an agreement you still have to live with. “Just to get it over with” concessions on parenting time or support become real terms. Get advice before you initial the page.
